Coping and support
By Mayo Clinic staffNot knowing the sex of your newborn immediately can turn a hoped-for celebration into a stressful crisis. Until the medical evaluation is complete, you may have to avoid thinking of the child as either a boy or a girl. You may choose to defer formally announcing the birth until the testing is complete and you've come up with a plan with your medical team. You'll want to give yourself enough time to learn and think about the issue before answering questions from family and friends.
Mental health providers can help you deal with this difficult and unexpected set of circumstances. In addition to ongoing counseling for your family, you may benefit from a support group, either in person or online.
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