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Mary M. Murry, R.N., C.N.M.
Mary M. Murry, R.N., C.N.M.
Mary Murry is a certified nurse-midwife in the Department of Obstetrics & Gynecology at Mayo Clinic, Rochester, Minn.
Murry, a Cincinnati native, has been a nurse-midwife practitioner for more than 20 years and is an instructor at the College of Medicine, Mayo Clinic. She was a contributing reviewer and writer of the "Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy" book.
Her research interests include adult female survivors of sexual abuse, women's perception of pain in labor, and obesity in pregnancy.
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June 10, 2010
Expectant fathers: Dads need attention, too
By Mary M. Murry, R.N., C.N.M.
Discussions about pregnancy and childbirth nearly always focus on women, but I think it's time to address another important member of the experience. Expectant fathers, this one's for you.
You don't have pregnancy nausea or vomiting. You can watch an entire movie without pausing to use the bathroom. You don't experience leg cramps, back pain or labor pain — nor do you know the joy of feeling an unborn baby move for the first time.
You probably wish you could help while your partner is vomiting in the bathroom, but holding back her hair or putting a cool washcloth on her forehead may not seem like much. Your feelings might be hurt if the baby seems to be practicing for the World Cup, but then stops moving as soon as you place your hand on your partner's tummy.
During labor, you'll do your best to step up to the plate and hit it out of the park as a labor coach — even though you hate to see the woman you love in pain. You may feel helpless because you want to make it better and just don't know how.
After the baby is born, you may feel lost when it comes to newborn care. After all, babies don't come with directions. You may suffer from sleep deprivation and worry about your new role and responsibilities. You may feel overwhelmed or trapped. You may even experience postpartum depression. If you notice any warning signs of postpartum depression — such as withdrawal, anger, aggression or other behavior changes — seek treatment from a mental health provider. Left untreated, postpartum depression can affect the whole family.
Expectant fathers, I salute you for jumping into the age of sharing pregnancy, attending childbirth classes, and being partners and coaches during labor. It really does beat sitting in a waiting room, drinking coffee and pacing — as expectant fathers used to do. Instead, you're there at Mom's side, welcoming your child into the world. You rock!
5 comments posted
October 24, 2011 10:09 p.m.
GREAT POST!!!
- NC
October 21, 2011 10:38 p.m.
Very true!!! I have been learning about my emotional and sympathy weight struggles as a new father to be (she's 14 weeks) http://babyinmybaby.blogspot.com/
- Justin
July 15, 2011 2:20 p.m.
I've been scouring the web trying to find information on what to expect as an expectant father and I have to say I agree with you there is really not much...it certainly isnt about the dads.. I started a blog in order to 1. help me out with what I'm going through and 2. to hopefully help others with the same. Check it out at afamilyfuntime.blogspot.com
- TattyDaddy
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- Mack
October 21, 2010 9:35 p.m.
I love the expectant Fathers paragraph, Believe it or not My girlfriend is Pregnant and Im really looking forward to this as I welcome my son or Daughter in to this world hoping to give everything I can possibly can to this child of Mine Thanks for the Pep speech I appreciate it reading this has made al the difference hope all will read this part if your a guy expecting a baby read this very important gives you a whole new perspective to look at:)
- Mathew
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