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  • Stress blog

  • March 29, 2011

    When calamity strikes, how will you respond?

    By Edward T. Creagan, M.D.

5 comments posted

My heart aches when I read of devastating accidents and illnesses. My spirit fades when I read about abuse and betrayal, deceit and manipulation. Yet I'm constantly reminded just how incredibly resilient people can be.

Need more help?

If the stress in your life is more than you can cope with, get help right away.

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
    1-800-273-TALK (8255)
  • Go to the nearest hospital or emergency room
  • Call your physician, health provider or clergy
  • National Alliance on Mental Illness
    www.nami.org
    1-800-950-NAMI (6264)

I've learned from my experience as a cancer doctor and from listening to the stories of my patients that when faced with a calamity or setback it's often best to do nothing. The heat of battle, when you're stressed out and sleep-deprived, is not the time to make a prudent, rational decision.

In the light of day and perhaps with a hot cup of coffee, you can think things through and seek the input and guidance of others. The options become clearer, and you can make a more appropriate decision not only for yourself but also for those around you.

Of course, these devastating events are not "fair." But as some of you have articulated, it's not the event that does you in. It's how you respond to the event.

To all of you who have commented on this blog and shared a part of yourself with us, I extend a heartfelt and profound thank you.

5 comments posted

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  • April 20, 2011 7:27 p.m.

    we had a great run and have experienced bumps for the last five years-------some people never have any good runs. we appreciate our good fortune and will deal with what we have.

    - willie

  • April 9, 2011 8:37 p.m.

    We have been married now for 56 years and I can emember our wedding vows to each other. My husband has Parkinson disease now for 6 years. I have so many people tell me to take a break and get help. My vows said, "for richer or poorer and sickness and health, death do us part. I repeat these words to myself everyday and mean them when I do. Yes, I get stressed sometime but I believe the Lord will let me know when it is time for help and as long as I can bath, dress,help him in any way, I will. That is true LOVE to me. He is 80 and I am 76 and I am in good health. I take him every where he wants to go. Keep wheelchair in car at all times. Keep all daily medicines with us so if we don't get back right away we are covered. The Lord won't give me more than I can handle, if I see danger in my health I will know it and move accordingly. When he is in the hospital I stay with him from 7am to 7pm if he is just in a room but otherwise I stay 24 hours, don't leave him. Our children are kind to us and help all they can and know I will be good to their father in every way I can. They have all taken their wedding vows as we have. Very important in our lifes. I am my husbands caretaker as the Lord is mine. Julia

    - Wedding Vows

  • April 9, 2011 9:44 a.m.

    No one ever said life would be easy. There are no guarantees that things will go along as you hope, or as planned. If you can believe that the path you follow was put in motion when you were born, it can be a little easier to deal with some of the obstacles put in your way. Perhaps then the next hill won't look so high, or take so long to climb. Perhaps then you may see that a better day could be ahead ...

    - Gail

  • April 7, 2011 6:42 a.m.

    Stress can cause so many illnesses and wear you down. You need to keep you mind busy, surround yourself with family and friends that are positive and supportive. I lose my 19 year son in an auto accident 3 years ago and I wanted to die. My 31 year old daugher is still going thru depression, abusing pills and I just put her into a rehab. This is the most stress I've ever experienced in my life but if you keep you mind in a positive mode and have faith not matter how much you don't want to, God will help you.

    - Bonnie

  • April 3, 2011 3:42 p.m.

    Cancer made me a better person---my wife, age 63, has suffered from AD for the last 8 years! We have been together almost every day except my time in the hospital. . I don't see this as a burden or role. It is my part of the life we have---she told me that she loved me so much that if one of us had to have it, she was glad it was her.

    - Willie

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