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  • Stress blog

  • May 4, 2011

    Everyone has a burden to carry

    By Edward T. Creagan, M.D.

6 comments posted

Some of the most powerful comments people post on this blog are about resiliency and tenacity in the face of adversity. These comments are a reminder that everyone faces challenges.

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If the stress in your life is more than you can cope with, get help right away.

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You may see someone at work or in the community who seemingly has "everything" — a beautiful house, a cabin on the lake, brilliant children and a successful career. However, everyone has a burden to carry or an ache in their heart. There are no exceptions.

"Do not judge lest you also be judged," is sage advice. If you haven't walked a mile in someone's moccasins, you have no concept of what their life is like. We would all do well to remember that and to try to be patient and charitable with others. We're all on a journey to seek out peace and serenity, but we can't get there if we're weighed down by resentment and anger.

6 comments posted

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  • October 13, 2011 10:46 p.m.

    For what happens to us has a reason. Everything is a blessing whether it is good or bad. From good stuffs it brings happiness, and from bad it gives experience for us to become better and stronger. It is similar to our emotion, what makes it bad is what we do.

    - Chiropractor Pacific Beach

  • May 11, 2011 9:24 p.m.

    Mom died when I was 7, dad married an abusive drunk and he turned into one, Viet Nam at 18. Addicted at 21, divorced at 31, any drug any woman until 38, turned life around and went to college at 42- graduated magna cum lauda at 46. Remarried at 49, teach in a prison now. Stress is just a bonus where I work. Depression has been my constant companion for over 50 years. Life is hell.

    - Fred

  • May 11, 2011 3:06 p.m.

    Thank you for this post. My husband is struggling with depression and bipolar disorder, and my brother is battling an addiction - both of which have put a huge stress on me and my family over the past year. Sometimes I'm tempted to look at my friends' relationships and think, "I wish my spouse were more like him." Or, "They seem so happy; I wish I could have such a normal life." But when I scratch beneath the surface, I often learn that they, too, are trying to overcome their own roadblocks in life. Certainly, I don't feel better that my friends are suffering. But I do feel like we're all in this together. Perfection may be a noble goal, but it shouldn't dictate happiness and fulfillment in life.

    - Sarah

  • May 11, 2011 5:35 a.m.

    I feel this most often at church, which is focused on The Family and teenagers -- I am a spinster of 60+ and feel like a stranger and a spare wheel. It is very hard to remember that God also loves those who dont come in sets.

    - Appleby

  • May 10, 2011 9:44 a.m.

    As a child I always assumed other families were more well off than we were. My mother worked outside the home when stay-at-home moms were more common. Our home was untidy and disorganized, the laundry always piling up. Now that I'm older I realize few had the TV sitcom homes I imagined and have learned my home was filled with affection and love--even though it wasn't a candidate for "House Beautiful."

    - Alma

  • May 7, 2011 12:23 p.m.

    Ridding yourself of anger and resentment is the most freeing thing you can do for your psyche. Your mind will free up space to make room for being patient and charitable to yourself and then to pass it on. I am a firm believer in this. Nice blog as always.

    - Joy

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