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  • Stress blog

  • June 1, 2011

    Look forward, not backward, when things go wrong

    By Edward T. Creagan, M.D.

9 comments posted

We live in a world driven by technology. Regardless of where we call home or what we do to make a living, we can't escape the digital world — or its frustrations. Let me explain.

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Like most people, I have become completely dependent on my smartphone, which I sometimes think is smarter than I am. A week or so ago for reasons that remain unclear, my smartphone froze up. I was unable to send or receive calls, texts or emails. With a complex schedule and numerous commitments, I found the situation frustrating to say the least.

A superb tech specialist sat down with me and walked me through how to resolve the problem. My initial question was, "How did this happen and what did I do to cause it?" My wise colleague gently reminded me that we could spend a lot of time trying to sort out what happened, but the time might be better spent trying to fix the problem.

As I mused on his comment, it made me think about life. Rather than focusing on the past and who did what to whom and what went wrong, it's far more profitable to spend your energies on fixing the problem. Helpful advice, don't you think?

9 comments posted

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  • April 17, 2012 4:35 a.m.

    I'm a kidney tpalsrnant patient with The Mayo Clinic. Please email me when you know when this utility becomes available for use with mobile applications that support ANDROID Software and not just iPhones.Thank you

    - Mateusz

  • June 24, 2011 2:21 p.m.

    Sure both are important. At different moments though. I'll bring other situations to explain myself. Your boat is sinking, you're in the middle of the mess of a car crash, your life is a mess, ... What matters at that time? Fix or get an explanation? Even better, as I learned recently, don't focus on the problem, focus on what you want. It goes right into the matter, gives you a positive drive and, keeps you focused on the most important what you want (not the mess you're in), then you'll figure out what to do.

    - Jose

  • June 14, 2011 5:01 a.m.

    Fixing the problem? Yes, it's good. But there is a Chinese proverb, Cut the grass and clear the roots. By fixing the problem, you're only cutting the grass. The problem must be sort out and faced with. By doing that, the percentage of this kind of problems arising again will be lowered. Thus, both are important.

    - Coco

  • June 9, 2011 9:44 a.m.

    a wise teacher taught me to look at past events as "feedback" and not "failure"; this promotes learning rather than self-recrimination and regret.

    - Lenore

  • June 8, 2011 2:59 p.m.

    I have to disagree with the premise not to look back. How can you find out what went wrong that affects today? Your past most certainly is part of who you are today and can't be denied. Denial only worsens any situation. One must visit the past in order to know why this has happened. It's the only way to correct errors and move on.

    - Janeen

  • June 8, 2011 2:30 p.m.

    Very Helpful Thank You So Much.

    - Muhammad Shadi al-Rajeh

  • June 5, 2011 11:46 a.m.

    I always find it useful to learn from the past and in the future you can make yourself a better person. In my view, we cannnot be who we are today without the element of progression. Back in the day we all use to be cave men who have learnt how to make fire with sticks!

    - Diane

  • June 2, 2011 2:52 p.m.

    A wise person once told me not to beat myself up over the past. Expect to get off track sometimes. Just get back on and go again. We have the tools and people to help us do that without worrying about the past or future.

    - carol

  • June 2, 2011 1:25 p.m.

    It depends. If looking back at what happened can help the future (say, but teaching you something that will help you prevent your smartphone from freezing up again), it would be silly to not look back. At some point, you need to move on, but I'm not sure how you learn unless you look back.

    - Mark

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