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  • Stress blog

  • Dec. 24, 2011

    Being connected to others boosts your resiliency

    By Edward T. Creagan, M.D.

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As a new year begins, it's a good time to reflect on the powerful stories of people who bounce back from profound setbacks and even personal betrayals. Thanks to everyone who's shared their stories through this blog.

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If the stress in your life is more than you can cope with, get help right away.

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
    1-800-273-TALK (8255)
  • Go to the nearest hospital or emergency room
  • Call your physician, health provider or clergy
  • National Alliance on Mental Illness
    www.nami.org
    1-800-950-NAMI (6264)

It's not clear if resilience is an inherited trait or a learned skill, but one factor appears consistent. Resilient people have someone, whether it's a mentor, a friend or a spiritual leader, who affirms their value and dignity. Everyone needs at least one person like that in their lives.

Speaking of dignity, no one expects you to put yourself in harm's way or to stay in a situation that is dangerous or life-threatening. If you're unsure about your situation, seek guidance and support to do the right thing for yourself and your family.

Everyone struggles with the same issues. There are no easy answers, but together we can find creative solutions that allow us to survive and thrive.

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  • January 3, 2012 8:07 a.m.

    This is so true. Without the support I had in my life I just don't know what would have happened to me. My Panic Attacks were crippling me during my teenage years, but someone came along who was simply fantastic. They were patient and caring and allowed me to be me and with them My stress reduced and my attacks completely went.

    - Kate

  • December 28, 2011 10:26 a.m.

    I think resiliency is at least partly learned. A natural optimism helps a lot. But I would like to learn more about how to be resilient!

    - Susan

  • December 28, 2011 9:06 a.m.

    I have learned quickly to have a party and bring in all those who have been good to you from childhood. Ignore those including family who are mean. Sing all the songs to the radio on your favorite station; buy some CD's that are current, forget old tunes as one's life has changed. Knock off all the bad vibes, call up friends to go to luch with, go to life theatre, see art shows and follow yhour instincts as they are to be trusted. Best of all, hire a great attorney and get a divorce.

    - Monica Jane

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