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Mary M. Murry, R.N., C.N.M.read biographyclose window
Mary M. Murry, R.N., C.N.M.Mary M. Murry, R.N., C.N.M.
Mary Murry is a certified nurse-midwife in the Department of Obstetrics & Gynecology at Mayo Clinic, Rochester, Minn.
Murry, a Cincinnati native, has been a nurse-midwife practitioner for more than 20 years and is an instructor at the College of Medicine, Mayo Clinic. She was a contributing reviewer and writer of the "Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy" book.
Her research interests include adult female survivors of sexual abuse, women's perception of pain in labor, and obesity in pregnancy.
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Prenatal visits: Do you bring support?
By Mary M. Murry, R.N., C.N.M.
A couple came to see me last week for a prenatal visit. They were so happy. They'd been to every prenatal appointment and ultrasound together. They both asked questions and we had a good talk about dads. Afterward, I thought about my own prenatal care nearly 30 years ago.
My husband didn't attend any prenatal visits or ultrasounds. To be fair, my midwife was my best friend and colleague. We tended to snatch time in the clinic whenever we could, rather than schedule formal appointments. Still, I wondered if missing those visits had bothered my husband.
When I asked him about it, he looked surprised — and slightly suspicious. Was this a trick question? At the time, employers weren't likely to give dads time off to attend prenatal visits. Sharing the experience certainly wasn't universal, and he said he didn't think he'd missed much. After all, he was there for the labors and births.
How the world does change!
Today, a support person is often an integral part of the prenatal experience. It's almost expected that partners or other friends and family will come to at least the milestone appointments — the first visit, the first time you hear the baby's heartbeat, the first ultrasound.
Do you usually go to prenatal visits by yourself or does someone accompany you? If you've had more than one pregnancy, did you take a different approach with the first pregnancy compared to subsequent pregnancies? Please share your stories.blog index