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  • Stress blog

  • Jan. 23, 2013

    Tap into the spiritual for help dealing with tragedy

    By Edward T. Creagan, M.D.

6 comments posted

At the service for a young person who died tragically, the clergy offered a simple and powerful message: If we become mired in asking ourselves why did this happen, we become stuck in a psychological dead end.

Need more help?

If the stress in your life is more than you can cope with, get help right away.

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
    1-800-273-TALK (8255)
  • Go to the nearest hospital or emergency room
  • Call your physician, health provider or clergy
  • National Alliance on Mental Illness
    www.nami.org
    1-800-950-NAMI (6264)

Without some sort of belief in a higher power or force, it's difficult for us mere mortals to push on in the face of grinding and overwhelming adversity. The unexpected death of a loved one, the financial or professional setback, the loss of a dream, the loss of hope — all can be overwhelming without some sort of support and spiritual energy from forces outside of ourselves.

Does this make sense? Please weigh in since this is an issue that everyone has struggled with.

Follow me on Twitter at @EdwardCreagan. Join the discussion at #Stress.

6 comments posted

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  • February 2, 2013 2:26 a.m.

    I am a Medical Consulatant- Internist What I find practically helpful is to go for a Relaxation Exercise. Lie down on the floor carpet and release your body as that of a corpse. Slowly repeat the number 99 in your mind 99 times or you can concentrate on some of the good things of the dear one. What I advise in India is to chant Gayatri Mantra twenty times in one’s mind without losing concentration.

    - Jayanti

  • January 30, 2013 2:55 p.m.

    I am a Registered Nurse who has dealt with death and dying on a regular professional basis. However, I have experienced the loss of loved ones as well. Each loss has taught me that whether the death is expected or unexpected it remains a difficult package of emotions. When the death is expected we tend to say "they are in a better place" or "they are not suffering anymore". When the death is unexpected then it becomes more difficult to use these phrases. We are often angry at first and go through all the stages of grief. I have had enough professional and personal loss due to expected and unexpected death that if it were not for my spiritual beliefs and Faith in GOD I am sure that I would be a "basket case". With each loss I remind myself that "I know where they are and I know who they are with"! I try to do something that is a positive reminder of that loved one. For me I plant a tree or make a garden in their honor. That way I have a seasonal reminder of renewed life when the tree or garden blooms. Each person must find something that will ease our mere mortal minds and help us deal with death and dying

    - Lynn

  • January 30, 2013 1:21 p.m.

    My younger brother died a few days after Thanksgiving two years ago. It was a needless death due to "family issues" with which I'm still having to handle. If it wasn't for the faith, strength, and peace that it gives me knowing that God will work this out in his own way and time, I don't know what I would've done. Thank you for this article.

    - Alexia

  • January 30, 2013 11:55 a.m.

    Thank you, Thank you, THANK YOU !!! It is so refreshing to see the medical arena credit the omnipotent and immutable peace and truth that a loving sovereignty protects, guides and loves us with. As a Nurse, it is some of the best medicine I can give.

    - Mary

  • January 29, 2013 9:41 a.m.

    Yes, I have been helped by faith. My sister who suffered from bi polar killed herself last spring. My mother is still living so a lot of stress! I go to a adoration chapel once a week which gives me a God's peace and mass on Sunday.

    - Sarah

  • January 23, 2013 10:04 a.m.

    A few posts back it was suggested that one of the great 'truths' is this: Life is difficult. Yes, acknowledging this great truth lets us re-orient our thinking and expectations. Another truth, it seems, is simply that life itself 'goes on' even when circumstances may make the experience feel otherwise. Since life goes on, then experience and outlook are bound to change--and in change are found the seeds of hope. From this standpoint, hope is always a reality.

    - Alan

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