Coping and support
By Mayo Clinic staffIf it's an ongoing concern, delayed ejaculation can be a source of mental and emotional stress for a man and his partner. If you have delayed ejaculation only on occasion, try not to assume that you have a permanent problem or to expect it to happen again during your next sexual encounter. Remember, occasional delayed ejaculation due to stress or other temporary factors may improve when the underlying cause gets better.
In addition, if you experience occasional or persistent delayed ejaculation, remember your sexual partner. Your partner may think your inability to reach climax is a sign of diminished sexual interest. Your reassurance that this is not the case can help.
Communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your condition. Treatment is often more successful if couples work together as a team. You may even want to see a counselor with your partner. This can help you address concerns you both may have about delayed ejaculation.
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