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  • Sept. 23, 2009

    Blog: Quitting smoking takes an inner-outer world shift

    By Jennifer A. Kern, M.S., C.T.T.S.

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When undergoing a personal transformation so profound as stopping smoking, it takes time for your "interior world" to catch up with this external change. Becoming smoke-free isn't something that happens on your quit date. It's a process that begins the day you first contemplate the idea and concludes the day you internalize your identity as a non-smoker.

Many people anticipate instant results. They think withdrawal will be done in a few days and that after a week they'll be comfortable without cigarettes. However, the inner world of your thoughts and your emotions has to undergo a great deal in order to catch up when your outer world shifts so quickly.

Don't run astray by expecting too much too soon. When you go smoke-free you're changing your entire reality; it's not just about giving up the cigarette. Everything has to shift — your patterns, your  beliefs, your self-image. Your inner life has to be deconstructed and rebuilt. That process is different for everyone. For some it may require staying busy, but for others it could call for a personal retreat.

Give yourself permission to take the time you need for quiet and self-care:

  • Read
  • Write
  • Listen to music
  • Sit in silence
  • Exercise your body
  • Dive into a creative hobby
  • Rediscover your passions

Be gentle with yourself as your inner world changes. So many people become restless and impatient, because they think their thoughts and emotions should keep pace with the abrupt shift from their familiar outer world to a new, uncharted reality. More often than not, you need to embrace the quiet hours before you can awaken to a new dawn.

Do you have other ideas to share about making this change?

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